This blog is written by Life Coach, Vivek S Ishwar. He is an author, blogger and coach by Passion; Chartered Accountant by Qualification; Finance and Strategy professional by Occupation. He is an eternal optimist, and seeks to find something good in everything. He is also an avid sportsman.
Worrying is something most of us are guilty of. We worry about our future, the future consequences of our past, the well-being of our near and dear, and anything that could disrupt our definition of an ‘ideal world’ is in our eyes.
While there are some very glaring observations for our reasons to worry, there are many approaches to solving for this worry.
Philosophically, what our ‘ideal world’ is, is highly subjective and is not always a reflection of what is real. Therefore, by changing our perspective of the things we worry about, the worry ceases to become a worry altogether. This is easy in theory but doesn’t cut ice for most. What if we could explore this a little more logically?
Logically Exploring The Concept Of Worrying
If we explore the concept of worrying, there are only two parameters in worry: Anxiety and the Outcome.
Anxiety is what we feel as we explore the feeling of worry. This is due to the fact that worry is usually about something concerning the future. Anxiety could lead to other emotions (often fear), but anxiety is typically the genesis of worry.
Outcome is the outcome we are looking to avoid with our worrying. This could be any outcome that could disrupt our earlier stated ‘ideal world.’
When we plot anxiety and outcomes into our lives, we will come across one of the four scenarios:
1: We were anxious about a bad outcome, and the bad outcome never took place
2: We were anxious about a bad outcome, and the bad outcome took place
3: We were not anxious about a bad outcome, and the bad outcome never took place
4: We were not anxious about a bad outcome, and the bad outcome took place
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Upon introspection, each of us would be able to find supporting evidence not just for one but for all four scenarios. These scenarios logically dictate that our anxiety around any outcome does not correlate with the outcome. This knowledge is divine, since this releases us of our need to worry altogether.
Is Worrying Even Constructive?
With the need for worry having now been logically dispelled, the next question that we would need to be answered is probably this: Is worrying ever constructive?
We can explore this by answering the below question when we begin to worry about anything.
“Can I take any action right now in the present or immediate future to prevent or reduce the likelihood of the future outcome I don’t desire?”
If the answer to the above is ‘Yes,’ then worrying points us in the direction of an action plan that we can use to reduce or even mitigate the worry altogether.
If the answer is ‘No,’ then by worrying, we would likely fall into the trap of worrying, although there is no correlation between our worry and the outcome.
Let us identify the needlessness of worrying, and let’s unleash the Juggernaut within!
You can find Mr. Vivek S Ishwar on Instagram @ Vivek S Ishwar | Coach. You can also learn from the valuable insights on his blog @https://vivekishwar.com
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