As humans we all worry. We worry about ourselves, our friends, our future, our present. We worry about the mistakes made in the past and that they don’t come back to haunt us. Worrying is almost something we can’t forego, now or ever. But what is the extent of worrying? Till when should we worry before it gets to us?
Wish Your Worry Away
But why do we need to worry? Is worrying like a talisman, something that will prevent the unwanted thing from happening? Will worrying make it better? There are times when we feel that our problem is only specific to us. Will we find comfort in the advice given by others? What is the harm in trying?
For instance, if I experience or am experiencing something which truly bothers me or disturbs me, I should talk to someone about it. How would that help? You only feel uncertain about something when you don’t know much about it and talking to someone helps because when you recite your story, your incident to someone, you hear it yourself by speaking out about your worries. That gives you a chance to reconsider things, even have an epiphany! Moreover, you can always have another person’s opinion about your problem, and you can choose your most suitable solution.
Talk It Out With Them
We often feel that people like to talk and judge us, by making assumptions about us. That is why we at times fear sharing our inside thoughts because we fear that they might not be understood by them. But is it so bad to give them a chance?
Everyone truly deserves a chance to prove themselves to us. If a particular incident prevents you from opening up, you should give yourself a second chance at trusting. What if they do understand and become a pillar of concrete to you? Is all this self-worrying enough to stop the problem?
What comes after worrying? You feel stressed. What can this six-letter word do? I have always known ‘Worry’ to snowball into extreme amounts of stress for me.
To quote a stupid example, suppose I have been worried about attending a party later in the evening and ultimately, I have found myself stressed at the time of the party. That is because I constantly think. But what if I simply call a friend or speak to my family and share my thoughts with them, seek their comfort? Would my stress wear down?
Over Thinking Is Not The Work Out Your Brain Needs
Can thinking tire you out? Let’s say that I have to clean my wardrobe today. I know it’s an undesirable task for me. I know I have been dodging it for weeks, but I have to do it.
But in this simple task of ‘doing’ why do I feel stressed? Is it because I know that at some point, I’ll have to do this task myself? Is it because the disappointment will pile up for tomorrow? Why do I feel more tired by the thought of the task rather than doing the task itself? I not just tired now, I am worried about my incapability to perform the task and the overall thinking has stressed me out.
But if I reach out to my friends, they can always tell me how being from the same age group they tackle this problem. They might share some tips and tricks to deal with this more efficiently. Not only my friends but I could also ask my family for a helping hand.
The Sender and The Receiver
Why do we shy out from asking for help? Is it because we feel that we do not want to burden someone with our problem or is it because we can’t find the right words to communicate?
None of us is a professional when it comes to mental health. Some days are bad while some days are good. On the judgment of these good and bad days, we give pieces of advice, highly based on our experiences.
I am not saying that the pieces of advice you get from your friends are equivalent to that of a therapist, but the kind of bond you have with your friends or family is really different from what you have with a therapist. If you feel that you are not able to reach out in the most adequate way possible, you should encourage them to see a professional.
So, while a therapist could tap into some dimension of your mind that could help you deal with your problem more formally and meticulously, a friend can give you the warmth and support of emotions, love, and care.
These Are Trying Times
We as the youth of this generation are not unaware of the gravity of anxiety, stress, depression, loneliness, or nervousness we go through at various points in life. Some might take it lightly while some might take it a little more seriously, which is their choice of matter.
So, if you ever come across a situation where our emotional wavelength is too volatile, we should not feel any shame in asking for help. We should express ourselves and speak to them and more importantly speak up for ourselves.
You can always ask your family, specific members of your family, or your friends or your teachers. No one will deny you help, they will empathize, but you need to take the first step. The best way to facilitate understand is to always read or research more about their behavior, try to understand the irrationalities in order to gain an inside window to mind and soul.
Admitting that you need guidance or support isn’t reflective of weakness. It takes courage to address an issue and even more of strength to help yourself by seeking the guidance you need.
If you feel unsatisfied by the help you’re getting then look around, you have a whole team around you waiting for your signal, but you first need to press the red button.
Do let us know how you support somebody in coping with their mental worries in the comment section below.
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